When You Need Divine Intervention to Make a Change
You know you can't do this on your own, and something has to give
You pushed through your comfort zone. You ventured out on your edge, but had some serious setbacks. Now you know it’s time to move on and learn your lessons in the post-traumatic growth zone.
But what happens when you feel stuck here, too?
Is this just another comfort zone? Did you create a soothing “golden cage” for yourself?
You don’t feel like you’re stuck in a “victim mindset,” so why is it so hard to get things moving again?
You also know deep down this isn’t really a “mental health” issue, either.
It’s something more logistical, like a switch you need to flip (if only you could find it), or a missing puzzle piece. And it feels like something only divine intervention can give you, because you know how much work you’ve already put into this; how much help you’ve asked for.
You can just tell you’re at the limits of your own perception, the limits of your own patterns, the limits of your own beliefs. You know that.
You need to disrupt yourself.
Breaking Out of Mental Lockdown
When we’re gifted intellectually, and gifted in imagination, as many artists and empaths are, this can come at the cost of sometimes inadvertently working against us.
Strong mental faculties like intelligence and imagination are meant to adapt ourselves to our greater environment of choice, so we can grow in the direction that our higher self wants to take us in.
But if our usual loops with “our world” become disrupted, challenged, or we somehow begin to feel we cannot meet our world adequately, imagination and intelligence turn themselves on us in an attempt to self-correct or solve the problem.
We need healthy self-reflection and introspection, of course, but the loop needs to connect with our world on the level of action, too. That part needs to be in there.
Are we taking new actions in alignment with what we’ve learned?
Or are we letting the perceptions and stories run on repeat, with no changes made?
Does this feel familiar? Do you ever feel like you’ve “painted yourself into a corner”? Has anyone ever told you you’re “too smart for your own good”?
Ultimately, it means your mind has become an airtight chamber. A closed system.
You’re highly intelligent, but you can’t make some fundamental change. You’re still “stuck.” You have all these great stories and excuses and reasons and “proof,” though, of Why Things Are The Way They Are.
You need to stop that now if you want your life to change.
I wrote a small book for you on how I solved the “getting unstuck” problem for myself. It works on many levels, whatever loop(s) you think you’re stuck in.
Buy your copy of my Life Reboot Guide right here.
The Change We Want Needs To Start From Within
Change is the ultimate problem of all forms of higher (human) growth. It’s what everything boils down to: can you change yourself? It’s great if you can still your mind and regulate your nervous system; are you going further, and stepping into the change and direction you want?
Before you can see a change on the outside in your life and world, it makes sense that it needs to start on the inside if we want to live in alignment with our own goals and chosen directions (rather than having these imposed upon us).
This is the focus of the 12-week Summer Self-Alchemy Sessions I’m running at the moment (this is the last free version; you can still join!).
When change comes at us from the outside (it’s life, things happen, of course!), this places us in a paradigm of extrinsic motivation (we need to change our schedule because someone has died; or we need to drive to an appointment, or upgrade our device so we can keep working, and so on).
We can’t live in a state of continual extrinsic-only motivation. It leads to burnout because we’re no longer in connection with our core self and higher path.
And burnout can very quickly spiral into depression, chronic anxiety and complex unresolved trauma, as I learned in retrospect. I ended up writing a short guidebook to help anyone else in a similar boat.
In this context, these aren’t mental illnesses. They’re direct symptoms of the loops you’ve got running, and you can learn to change those.
Grab the actionable steps for doing this here (includes an invite to my private community).
Change Your Loops, Change Your Life
It’s time to disrupt yourself. Disrupt your assumptions. Disrupt your patterns.
There really is a level on which you’re a cybernetic being. You run certain habit loops as ways of linking up with the outside world for achieving certain goals and needs. You repeat the loops that “work.”
But the loops have a cumulative effect on each other, and might be sending you more into a downward spiral or veering too far off couse. Some loops are outright just toxic forms of addiction (delivering a “need” that isn’t serving you).
The real work lies in upgrading our loops. That’s really what all self-change comes down to. You have mental loops you run. Emotional loops.
In worst case scenarios, someone might be running 100% of themselves on autopilot loops (responding to anything in the exact same way, with the exact same schemas). This is mental lockdown, and you need to break out of it.
Find a way to break open a 5% hole where the light gets in and become an open system. Let yourself be surprised by something.
t’s the Agile method of turning your life around — start small, make an opening for external feedback, and repeat.
How do you crack open that 5% though?
Get my guide for how I did it. Let me know if it helps. I have more of these coming on more specific issues, so give me a follow (especially on my YouTube, I post there a bit more regularly).
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